He Wants You Involved in Every Part of His Life
When a man loves a woman he wants her included in every aspect of his life. He wants his friends and family to love you, more than that, he wants them to understand why he loves you so much. The first time me and my boyfriend met, we bonded instantly. Our humor was the same, we bonded over music, our love of craft beers, everything we talked about, was simply chemistry. That’s probably why we had sex the first night we met. We couldn’t get enough of each other. We had sex at least three times that night. Then, the very next day he took me to his house to meet his mother and sister. Yes, I know what you are all thinking. That is super weird and uncomfortable. I felt the same way. It took him a while to convince me to get out of the car, but from that point on, the rest was history.
No matter what we went through we always knew that we wanted to be together forever. At that point, it was very important to him that his friends and family liked me as well. Honestly, it didn’t take them much to do so. People typically like me. I can get along with anyone, that I choose to get along with. Me quickly bonding with his friends and family, only solidified his love for me more. He didn’t have to force the situation or try and get me to come hang out with anyone. He didn’t have to hold my hand or help me out. I am a social butterfly and it took nothing for me to integrate myself into his life and into his family’s life. Having so much in common made us naturally friends as much as we were lovers. This being new for him, he wanted me to hang out with him and his friends all the time. Anything that he wanted to do, I was always interested in, or I’ve always had a passion for it. This really didn't go over too well especially on guys night. I typically get along with men more than I get along with women and some women may find that intimidating. Anyways, having all these common interest made him excited to introduce me to everyone and everything that he loved.
Your Happiness Comes Before His
We occasionally debate about this. I know, I just know, I love him more than he loves me, but he always refutes this. However, I've come to believe him more and more, as everyday, he convinces me more and more.
If you're upset about anything, if you're sad, if your day is ruined, his day is ruined.
Over these 2 1/2 years my boyfriend has always put my happiness first. If I’m not happy he truly is not happy either. He caters to me, and if he has it in his power, to do anything to make me smile, he will do it. After one year of being together, he didn’t want to live in apartments anymore. He wanted to buy a house, but better than that, he wanted to buy a house with me. After viewing dozens of homes, we stumbled upon our current fixer-upper. He knew that it would take more effort than he would like to get it fixed up, but he also saw my eyes light up every time we saw the house. Even though he was hesitant, he still bought the house for me. He had other homes that he wanted, but since I was fixated on this home and its beauty, he didn’t hesitate to put an offer in on the house. If that’s not love, I don’t know what love is.
He has done countless selfless acts through our entire relationship, including recently. We were having a typical couples argument and I was very upset with him. I didn’t think he would do it, but I told him if he wanted me to be happy and forgive him that he needed to get on his knees and beg me. As I said this, I motioned my hand for him to bow down to me and he didn’t hesitate. He dropped to his knees, put his hands around my waist and pressed his cheek against my stomach and squeezed me tight. He then looked up at me and told me that he loved me and never wanted to argue with me. He just wanted me to be happy. Honestly, I didn’t think he was going to do it. I was just being extra bitchy in the moment over such a trivial argument. But he still was willing to do anything to make me happy even if it meant being completely submissive in that moment.
He Thinks of Ways to Make You Love Him More
If it's real, he'll never want you to stop swooning. If it's real, making you smile will always be the objective. If you're well out of the honeymoon stage, and he' still making an effort to show you he loves you, then it's real.
When we first started dating, my boyfriend could tell that I loved, LOVE! I wear my heart on my sleeve and I love being romanced. Unfortunately, he was never any good at it. Not because he didn’t love me, but because he never had any real experience being truly romantic. Knowing that I loved being romanced, he constantly put in the effort to make sure I knew how much he loved me.
There would be these brief stints in our relationship where he would do a lot of romantic things. Bringing me flowers to work, even if he just picked them out of someone’s garden, he would make sure I had fresh flowers on my desk. Writing me love notes to find in my car, slow dancing with me in the living room, in the middle of the night, all sorts of sweet movie-like things. However, there were also long stints during our relationship, where he would simply forget to do anything at all.
Eventually he decided to set an alarm. Alarm that would go off every so often to remind him to do something over the top, to make me feel loved. Now, this may seem weird, but going through that effort is amazing to me. He knows what type of person he is. He knows he can be forgetful and he knows that romance isn’t second nature to him, but he goes out of his way to make sure that I feel loved every day. On top of that, his love language is different than mine. He thinks it’s romantic by doing the little things throughout the day, every day. Hugging me from behind, a little kiss on my neck here and there, taking my car to get washed for me and get the oil changed. Planting flowers in the yard for me and massaging my feet. There was even one time I broke the zipper on my favorite dress. I had this dress for years, and I knew I would never find it again. I threw it in the trash and then a couple days later I came home to it, laying on the couch. He took it to the tailors and got the zipper and some stitching fixed. He definitely got some that night!
Him loving me on a daily basis, naturally, is what he feels is romance. As stated before, he knows that I am a sucker for "TV romance," so he makes an effort to be over the top sometimes. He knows he’s forgetful, he knows he can suck at real romance at times, but he forces himself to be different for me. He knows how much it means to me. My happiness and showing me how much she loves me is very important to him. We both have two different love languages. Mine may be a little more over the top than his, but he’s willing to cater to that, so I feel 100% loved.