He popped the question. Congratulations are in order! This is an exciting time, and so much is about to change. You finally went from girlfriend to fiancee and your head is spinning. Here is a top five list of things to avoid doing, right after your relationship status has changed.
CHANGING YOUR FACEBOOK RELATIONSHIP STATUS IMMEDIATELY
We get it. You're excited! However, don't jump the gun on posting to social media before you have informed all those closest to you. The last thing you want is for a relative or friend to find out the big
news, via social media. Let the news spread amongst those closest to you. Yes, it's your news to share, but naturally it will quickly circulate amidst your circle. If you're worried about a lot of people already knowing, and missing out on "likes", don't be. Even those who were already aware will still bask in the online news, and wish you all the best. Most importantly, you're not a teenager anymore. You're still engaged even if your relationship status has not been changed on Facebook. Hell, some of ya'll claim to be married online, and actually aren't. (sips tea)
BEING SELF ABSORBED
You finally have that ring on your finger, and you can't stop looking at it. You're thinking about your dream wedding, you're thinking about your dress, and you're thinking about everyone you want to invite, you're thinking about... wait a minute. There's more than one person in this relationship. All you're talking about is your wedding online and how excited YOU are. Instead of posting only your engagement ring to Facebook, post pictures of you and your future husband, basking in your newly engaged status. Swap out all those statuses that start with "I." It's not about the fact that you said yes. It's about the commitment you're about to make in holy matrimony. Below are a few, other ways, to announce your engagement that include your groom to be
Take a selfie of you and your fiancee all hugged up ( don't let the focal point be the ring. It's not about that. Let the ring be seen, but make it subtle)
Wait a little while and announce your engagement through your engagement photo session. (that's what the pictures are technically for)
Fellas, if you can, have someone take pictures while you're popping the big question
Use a cute photo prop. If there is something you both love, incorporate that. If you and your hunny love coffee, have the Barista at Starbucks write "engaged" on your coffee cup and have them snap a picture of you two
OVERSHARING WEDDING DETAILS
Let some things be a surprise. We don't need to see your wedding favors, or centerpieces, or floral decor, or venue pictures. The photographer you hire will take pictures of all that, and frankly, better ones.
THE WORLD DOES NO REVOLVE AROUND YOUR STATUS
You're engaged. Noted! You do, however, still have a life outside of being engaged. Not every status update and picture needs to be related to your impending marriage. This should not be your focal point from here on out until the big day. Honestly, most people get annoyed at the constant wedding updates. All the excitement from your Facebook fam stopped after you announced your engagement. It's fine to post small updates and fun activities that you are doing. Like the bachelorette party, or bridal shower, and definitely wedding dress shopping, but keep it at that. The major moments throughout your engagement. No one cares about the napkins you picked out, or the customized wine glasses you chose. We don't need to see the hair clip you're wearing, or the boutineers that the groomsmen will be wearing. Save something for the big day and enjoy life outside of wedding planning.
DON'T LOSE YOUR IDENTITY
It's OK the be trilled about spending the rest of your life with the man of your dreams. It's not OK to obsess over it. Why are women enthralled in the fact of taking his last name? Why does your life get consumed about becoming his wife? Don't lose your identity. Unless your last name is something like Kimberly Cockenswalloh, what's the countdown to changing your last name for? I hear the legal stuff to changing your name can be a pain in the ass. Good god, who the hell can't wait to go to the BVM?! Take your time, it's a long annoying process.
